I had a conversation with the leader of another church last week.
He told me about this group of people from a home for the disabled that had started attending on Sundays. The leadership recently learned that one of the guys in this group had been in some legal trouble in his life. More to the point, he’d been imprisoned for some sort of child abuse, including sexual abuse and molestation.
This came out through casual conversations about their lives that members of the church had with him and others in their group. He didn’t do anything to anyone at the church. The concern arose because of something very bad that he did in the past.
He (my friend, the church leader) said to me,
“So, we had to un-invite him. We just didn’t want our kids around that.”
I was shocked, frustrated and, frankly, embarrassed.
Since I’m an “outsider” to the situation, I can only speculate how I would react.
I’m a dad, and I’m crazy about my son. I mean absolutely smitten with affection for that kid. So, I can empathize with them in wanting to protect the children. Fathers have an obligation and a responsibility to lead, provide for and to protect their families.
But I’d like to think that, if I were in their shoes, I would also consider my position as a leader in the church. That I am also responsible to shepherd the members of the church body as a pastor (Acts 20:28; I Peter 5:1-3). This guy did the right thing in coming to the church. He recognized his imperfections and he responded by seeking God.
I’m convinced that the natural tendency is for a church to grow inward. It takes an intentional focus by the church leaders to keep a church on mission to look out for the needs of others. The way this self-serving church scenario typically plays out is to reject anything that could potentially compromise the comfort or security of that “inner church safety” (more commonly referred to as cliques). In this case, it was a child molester that was looking for redemption, but found rejection.
My heart breaks for this man’s soul and for so many others like him that are very likely lost forever because we (the Church – capital “C”) weren’t faithful. We weren’t willing to trust that it was the Lord who led them to us, and we weren’t faithful in discipling them.
Instead, we protect ourselves at the expense of their souls.
We need to consider if the church that we are living for is the kind of church that the Son of God brutally offered up His life for. And that makes me ask myself:
- What are you not doing?
- What is stopping you?
…for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
2 Tim 1:7